Opinion: Take a Me Day

If there’s one thing that all Boston College students have in common, it’s that they’re all busy. When the hustle and bustle of the week comes to a close on Friday afternoon, there’s almost always a social lineup of some kind for the weekend. With all that’s going on, it can be easy to lose yourself in the noise of the crowd.

While spending time with friends is important, so is setting aside some alone time. The way residence halls are structured makes flying solo rare, so once in a while spending a full day alone can be refreshing. When you’re around people all the time, you can end up constantly putting on a show and lose a piece of your authentic self.

A day alone can give you a chance to reconnect with yourself. Your relationship with yourself requires time, just like your relationships with friends and family.

You don’t want to leave college not knowing how to be alone or not being comfortable with yourself. The constant socializing that occurs in a college environment will not be the norm for the rest of your life. If you forget how to be alone during these four years, you could be paving yourself a rocky road for the post-grad years.

So how exactly do you spend a day alone? The answer is simpler than you would think. Just about anything you would normally do with friends, you can do by yourself.

For a lot of people, seeing a movie or eating out alone can be daunting. However, if you muster the confidence to just do it, it’s unlikely that anyone will look at you differently or even glance in your direction. Plus, if you go to a movie alone, that’s more popcorn for you.

Caveat: You probably should not carry on a full conversation by yourself. That would probably not go unquestioned. You should however take the opportunity to get in touch with your inner monologue. This piece of you is something that can easily be overrun by all the voices in your everyday life.

Maybe there’s something you have been dying to do for a long time like see a quirky documentary, but you have shied away from doing it because none of your friends want to go with you. Challenge yourself, and just do it alone.

There are also some things that are better as solo activities, like holing up with a book in a café or people-watching in Faneuil Hall. Boston is also filled with many great museums, which are all ideal locations for a day alone. When you’re by yourself, no one will drag you through an exhibit before you’re done looking around.

Some of us are introverts and some are extroverts, but at the end of the day we can all benefit from alone time. A day by yourself is not lonely like you might expect but instead is a nice way to relax. Spring break is just around the corner, and this may be a great chance for you to get some much needed me time. Recharge all by yourself and you’ll have more to bring to the table when you’re back with your friends.

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Emma Winters